Dr Frazer Dorrian McGlinchey is not, as his daughter Tallulah points out, a real doctor (as he is a PhD). When he’s not consulting for brands, teaching, writing, napping, or practising yoga and meditation his focus as the founder of happysense is accessible wellness and healthy hedonism.
As well as ongoing Tox industry wellness sessions and The Zen of Whisky mindful drinking events and collaborations with happysense, early 2019 will see the launch of Retox industry events, The Yin of Gin and more ways to spread good vibes.
A BARTENDER’S FOR LIFE, NOT JUST FOR CHRISTMAS
(and barbacks, waiters, front-of-house, chefs, managers, owners, creators, collaborators and catalysts for magic every day).
As crazy season looms large again for the champions of the industry, a new piece following on from last year’s to hopefully offer some value, and definitely share good vibes.
Remember that this can be an enormously challenging time for people for any number of reasons behind the party hats; loss, grief and anxiety can be heightened massively by the holiday season, and this can be compounded if people feel isolated, be it geographically or emotionally.
This article is in part inspired by the industry’s invaluable work in sustainability- an incredible move (often by some of my favourite people) towards a global community which can be proud of itself as innovative, supportive and ethical.
In a wonderful emerging, and vitally necessary age of increased accountability, closed loop, blockchain and nose to tail, let’s advocate head to toe kindness for the one thing which can never be replaced, regardless of how many robot cocktail clips we see.
I would humbly suggest that we ensure the short, and long-term sustainability of that most precious asset of all- the human.
Your pals and colleagues.
The people you work with, and who define hospitality so perfectly.
What belongs you and what doesn’t.
The junior businessman on an all-dater close to maxing out his company card trying to impress his colleagues.
The team of Christmas-hatted gym pals all pissed as wizards and demanding you play Mariah Carey ad infinitum and wish Sandra all the best in her new job at half past 6….
Your boss who has just had a full meltdown at somebody within earshot, whether it’s out of character due to stress and yet another confirmation he is a dreadful human being, with little or no sign of redemption.
THIS WILL PASS.
Remember to check in with what is happening RIGHT NOW.
I often say that there are 86,400 seconds in a day, so don’t let a few bad ones, and your response sabotages your day.
LOOK AFTER YOURSELF. THEN LOOK AFTER EACH OTHER.
Notice how you feel, and reach to others when you feel you need to. Similarly, keep an eye on those around you.
This time of year or any time of year may be hard for you, or somebody around you.
Check in with yourself, and look after other- make sure nobody feels isolated or alone if you can.
Look after yourself, and we’ll all try to look after each other.
Tiny acts of kindness are revolutionary, so chuck kindness around like biodegradable tinsel. Shower it on yourself and everyone around you and see what happens.
Show yourself the same amount of kindness (and humour) you would the people you love. You deserve it.
Focus on the positives, and kindnesses which can fly under the radar with the mayhem around you.
Sustain and nourish yourself.
Sleep as well as you can.
Be hydrated and well nourished.
Move a little.
Notice triggers, or when you feel run down, and try to make changes to help yourself.
YOU ARE NOT FOR CHRISTMAS. YOU ARE FOR LIFE
Whether or not hospitality in its current, or another form ends up as your career really doesn’t matter at all.
You matter. Always have, always will.
There is a soul, a generosity of spirit and a humanity at the very heart of what you do, and it is infinitely more important than amazing drinks, delicious food or clever branding will ever be.
Cherish the life you have, and try to do the things which remind you how ace it is.
I wish you an amazing Christmas, and an epic 2019 champions- May The Road Rise Up To Meet You